How I Keep My Energy Steady: A Little About Daydreaming

People often ask how I look after myself with the kind of work I do — seeing several clients a day, teaching classes, managing different people, different ailments, different moods, and all the shifts that come with that. It’s a kind question, and it usually makes me stop for a second, because I don’t really have a big answer.

When someone asked me recently, the only thing that came out was,
“I daydream.”

And it’s true. I’ve always been a daydreamer. I used to drift off at the wrong times — in class, mid-conversation, sometimes right when someone was asking me something important. I still do it now and then. Family, partners, friends — not everyone has found it endearing. It can look like I’m not listening, but it’s not that at all. My mind just slips away for a moment, softens a little, and I go somewhere else for a breath.

That small habit has followed me through my adult life and, without realising it, has become one of the ways I reset myself.

A Quiet Way to Rest

Between clients, or when there’s a bit of space in the day, I find myself going there — not asleep, not meditating, just letting thoughts move around. Sometimes it’s a dream of something I’d like to do or see or feel. Sometimes it’s just a colour, or a soft, fuzzy sort of space.

It doesn’t last long. A few seconds maybe, a few minutes if I’m lucky.

For a long time, I thought I should be able to meditate properly — sit still, breathe, focus — but it never felt like me. Finding out that daydreaming can be its own kind of meditation made sense. It’s my way of finding quiet.

Staying Emotionally Steady

As part of the type of massage I practice, I’m required to have regular supervision and therapy. At first, it was simply part of meeting professional requirements, but over time it has become something I value personally as well. These sessions help me stay grounded, reflect on how I respond to others — their moods, their energy, their stories — and make sure I’m able to give each person my best.

I also believe that anyone who works in caring, therapeutic, or wellbeing roles — giving their energy and sharing themselves with others — can benefit from some kind of support. Supervision, therapy, or even just moments of reflection and quiet consideration with peers can be a useful way to stay steady, present, and able to give without wearing yourself out.

Combined with those small daydreaming moments, this support helps me feel balanced and ready, even on the busiest days.

Letting Go of the “Shoulds”

There’s a lot out there about how we should look after ourselves — the walks, the yoga, the baths, the time in nature. All good things. But they don’t always fit into my days, and I’ve stopped feeling bad about that.

My quiet comes in smaller pieces — those little moments in between things, when I can just drift for a bit and breathe.

It doesn’t look like much, but it gives me back some space, helps me come back to myself, ready for whoever’s next.

And it’s not only that people come in with their world — they step into mine too. We share time and space, and that has its own weight. It can be meaningful, but it can also be a lot to carry. So those quiet moments after, when I drift a little, help me find where I end and they begin again.

So if you ever see me drift off, or notice I’ve disappeared for a moment, just give me a second.
I’m not gone — I’m just recharging my internal battery.